Eight years ago today, a beautiful young lady and I wedded in our local church, Kampala Pentecostal Church in Uganda. It sounds so long and yet feels so short. I thank God that I personally have no regrets. I hope my wife shares the same feeling.
The eight years are full of learning experiences that have made us wiser in issues of marriage relationships.
There are several lessons to share but one that one of the elderly Pastors (who enjoys his marriage relationship) shared with us during pre-marital counselling, and that I confirm and in turn share with others, is: "do not go into a marriage relationship with a list of expectations, instead go in there, learn each other and together adapt appropriately." I find this advice invaluable. There are lots of different ways of doing things that couples learn from their spouses. One who expected their spouse to do things exactly like them would soon get disappointed but more importantly would miss a possibly better way of doing things and also miss a learning experience in the process of being 'rigid'.
I noticed that while attempting to elaborate on one aspect of the Pastor's advice, I have touched on something I would describe as patience and flexibility. Maybe not only that but also the aspect of harnessing the power of complementarity and synergy.
I better stop here because it looks like the more I write the more I 'scratch' on other lessons and the higher the possibility that I will be late for a date. Maybe I will get back to the subject on a later date (either as a new post or improvement on this one - keep visiting the post / blog if you are interested in more).
I am off for a date.
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